Yours is one of the only communities I have come across that actually deals with the spiritual side of things. To me, it seems as if sometime around 2010 some massive shift took place and everybody dropped their reincarnation and X in a Y body theories in favor of these pseudo-psychological intellectual approaches to being otherkin. Knowing my kin type has been freeing but has also led to a great deal of struggle and forced me to accept some ugly truths about my families. I tend to feel a bit resentful in communities where I feel like the people there have literally nothing to lose. That is not to say that I will only hang out with people who have it rough or that I value comparing pain or something, but in some of these communities I get the sense that these people have not done any of the real work involved with soul searching (as you said). There are some who kind of remind me of some of the people I tutor - they show up and expect someone else to hand them answers. Then there are others who think they already have answers but I struggle not to see their answers as role-play. I know there's this whole "who are we to judge" argument that people use, but there is a difference between blindly judging someone and making an observation about a person whose words and actions are going to be seen as representative of an underrepresented and haphazard community that you are a part of.

I don't need anyone to justify who they are to me, but I can often tell when people have put actual work into discovering their kin-types and learning about themselves and when people have not. It's hard. It takes time. Chances are, if you do it right, you won't end up finding out that your soul is that of a computer. I think I'm pretty over these technology-kin by the way. If someone wants to give me a well-thought out explanation as to how they are that, I'll listen, but I'm tired of feeling like the odd one out because my kin-type is rooted in real experiences and concrete memories versus liking Pikachu or "resonating" with your laptop.

I feel the same way. Embracing Mystery was the last one I tried that was spiritual in nature but they allowed literally everyone to join so there were just random humans who felt like being annoying for no apparent reason hanging around there not to mention fluffs and people who suspected everyone of fluff. Then there was Otherkin Alliance which had some people with spiritual natures but it seemed like in chats everyone was talking about random unimportant stuff and it confused me why people who had this rare thing in common would want to talk about random stuff all the time. Then I tried that site with the cutsey looking trees on it and I just didn't find it helpful. For a while I used Plurality Resource but left because of a.) the science thing and b.) people insisting that therapy was some hugely helpful thing I had to try when I've found therapy to be nothing but a waste of time and money. Then there was some site run by a guy who seemed a little ridiculous to me. Then there was Otherkinsight, but that site got shut down today and I heard that some drama ruined it.

That sounds absolutely awful. I had heard there was some issue on Otherkinsight about a member being pro-child porn or something but I hadn't heard about the psychological-kin thing at all.

Alright let's drop the child porn subject. At least in this section. This isn't something I want people reading in the goal of the community page. To remove misunderstanding we don't allow or approve of child porn. Please start up a review in the community connection.

Now first off, seraphyna is not allowed here period. Nada. She joins I ban her. I have serious issues with her and she seems to be out to get me. She's the one who told me to watch Lost Girl to srudy succubus. Then deleted the topic when she became an admin to cover her ass.

Now i like having the forums locked down... >3 hehe

Just remember if this goes south about mental kin I'll move this to down & dirty.